7 Ways to Get the Perfect Woman
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The Story
I had lunch with a friend today who just broke up with his girl of 18 months. He was cool but said something super interesting that caused me to write this post…
“ there was nothing wrong, she was everything I wanted– or at least– thought I wanted in a woman… I just didn’t want to marry her”
Ooof, that’s tough, but what’s even crazier is that I’ve heard this from like 4 different guys in the last 2 weeks. So I started to ask myself, are men the ones romanticizing romance these days? Are we now the ones looking for the equivalent of “Mr Perfect”? And if it's not exactly as we thought it would be then we’re out? Is the grass always greener?
I won’t bore you with the stats about this generation taking longer to get married and taking longer to have kids but we do have to ask what is the root cause of all of this. And the truth is… dare I say it… and stick with me here fellas…
It’s our fault!
I’m not saying you should settle, absolutely not in fact I commend my friend for leaving when he did and how he did. It wasn’t toxic or bad vibes. It was honest and respectable. But, what we as men need to remember is that it’s not our job to “find the perfect woman” but rather, it’s our job to make her.
I can hear some of you now “but I don’t want to change anyone”, “if I have to change her then why don’t I just find someone like that in the first place”. I hear you bro, but think about all the perfect woman you think you’ve found and how did that go? Are you still with her and happy? Great, you can stop reading, don’t forget to subscribe before you leave. But if you’re not, carry on reading because we have to solve this problem immediately time is ticking.
So what do I mean? Well, women are very impressionable, let’s be honest, if a woman loves you enough she’ll do whatever it takes to make you happy (as you should too of course). Not only that, but if you are a real man, who;
Looks after himself
Looks after her
Is assertive
Eats well
Emotionally aware
Has an income
Makes her feel safe
Is or on the way to being financially stable
Basically, not a Slobb :)
etc, then she’s more likely to become the person she needs to be for you.
The Logic
As a man you set the tone and your woman will follow suit. She will emulate you in all the right ways and over time she will be the perfect woman for you. But we as men need to be intentional about the woman that we want and what kind of woman we want them to be. The perfect woman is on us not them. And let's be clear, this isn’t some controlling BS that I’m talking about here, so you can force her into being something she’s not. Please, don’t go home shouting at your girl saying Don’t Be a Slobb sent you. She’ll unsubscribe you from here Better yet you can’t force anything. If there’s resistance or not a willingness from her wanting to be the perfect woman for you then I can tell you now this ain't guna work. No man should be forcing a woman to do anything. That is not what this is about.
Cultivate the Perfect Woman
This is about cultivating, nurturing, and finding someone who can be the perfect woman for you. You think I’m talking crap? Try it out, ask your female friends or if this is true, and see what their response is. Every woman can be the perfect woman to their man if he’s a leader. If you’re a leader worth following and show good direction, a clear vision, and good morals she will follow suit. It’s in their nature.
With all that said, here are 7 ways to get the perfect woman:
7 Ways to Get the Perfect Woman
Find someone who wants to become your perfect woman. Nothing matters if she doesn’t have the right mindset
Be a good leader. You don’t need to be the CEO of a company to be a leader. Are you clear on what you want out of life? Are you disciplined today? Do you set the direction for your relationship?
Nurture her. Let her know she is safe and can be her full self around you. Let her know you’re here for a long time (if you’re not married already) and that she is in your future. If she knows she is in your future then she can help you build it too!
Make her feel good about herself. Compliments never get old, encouragement never gets old.
Create good habits together. You want a Christian woman, are you going to church together? You want a sports fan, are you taking her to games with you? You want a hustler, are you building something she can hustle with you on?
Show her why you’re the perfect man. Be all the things she wants in a man and more. This will encourage her to do the same too.
Take care of yourself. Dress well, eat well, workout, and show her that you are in control of your health both physically and mentally.
No of the above matters if you’re not a purposeful man so get your stuff together. No time like the present.
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